When I look around me, I see that the competition is getting tougher and stronger. I do have days where I don't know what to do and how to stay positive when it comes to what should I do next especially that I am in my early thirties. I have so many things that I need to achieve that's not being crossed on my list. I just have to focus my energy on making things happen and stay committed to whatever I needed to accomplish.
It dawned on me that I really have to stay positive for myself and my family and friends. I know that it's easier said than done. However, I have to do it. And I remind myself all the time that no matter how we stay positive in all that we do, there will always be annoying people and naysayers surrounding us. One thing, I learned from all of these experience is that no matter how irritating those pesky people could get into our nerves, I believe that they happen for us. They teach us how to behave as adults and excel in whatever we do and let our light shine. I am just thankful that I have a few treasured people whom I can count on all throughout.
I just recently finished reading the book, Eat, Pray, Love. I must admit, I loved the book compared to the movie. Elizabeth Gilbert, is so spot on, vulnerable, very funny in telling her sad and happy story in her quest for love. I have been thinking of starting to give my energy into writing, again. I just have to renew my passion and commitment to be there and be raw and speak and write from the bottom of my heart and tell my story to the world. So, yes, it is never too late to pursue your dream. We age, yes, but I believe that if you align yourself to being positive and put your energy into something that would somehow know your purpose in this thing called, life. Reading that book really excites me to jumpstart my love for writing. Yes, it is never too late to start something that you really love and want. According to the famous NIKE logo. "Just Do It." You, alone can make that dream come true, whatever it is that you want in your life. Life is sometimes tough. Yes, we all have our ups and downs but it's not how many things we fall but it's how we stand up each time we fall and start again. Shake off the pity parties and pursue what you want. We will never get out of this live alive. Let us might as well do whatever we need to do and learn from our past mistakes.
I love the fact that I have someone who believes in what I do and what I can achieve. I am grateful. "This little light of mine, I'm gonna let it shine." "Let it shine, let it shine, let it shine."
Mabuhay! Mazeltov! Bon Chance! Good luck! God bless us all!
Sunday, November 20, 2011
Wednesday, November 2, 2011
Smart Little Superstar on Ellen
When a friend of mine showed me this video, I could not stop laughing and be amazed by how spot on this little girl at a very young age of 8. She is very entertaining. I even showed this to my boyfriend and he was dumbfounded. I couldn't stop watching this video and I know that it's all over the place right now but for those who missed this one, here you go...Her parents must be proud of her. Enjoy!
Monday, October 24, 2011
A Big-Haha!!!
Okay, it's a Monday and yes, I've been slacking a little tad bit from posting and updating my blog. Yes, however, this video would not escape from my wandering eyes. It's gone viral and these toddlers are from Canada. Yay! =) Look, how you could see the future of these two little cookies...I salute this kid, he's smart and knew what to do by destroying the evidence about all his escape from his crib. I also love his twin brother who is so nonchalant about his lil bro's agenda. Just watch and have yourself a good laugh! Happy Monday everyone!
Monday, October 10, 2011
A Surprise for a Little Girl's Birthday Captured
This one's innocent girl's reaction is captured on video and it was a classic! I love surprises but sometimes it's killing you softly because you don't know how to react when the moment comes. Look at this little girl's reaction. I would throw a ball if I get a Disneyland surprise, too! Happy Birthday, girl!
Monday, September 12, 2011
Ms. Universe 2011
The whole country is in full support for Ms. Shamcey Supsup! Go, girl! Shine amongst the beautiful jewels and bring home the pride and joy of your beloved nation! You made it to the Top 15. Atta, girl!
I am also happy and proud that my beloved Lea Salonga, who's also Filipino is one of the judges in this pageant!
I am also happy and proud that my beloved Lea Salonga, who's also Filipino is one of the judges in this pageant!
Tuesday, September 6, 2011
Kudos To You, Petra
The world is really changing rapidly and the taboo, then is now acceptable. Here's a little video where we can watch it with no judgement but try to understand where she is coming from. Please share your little comments below. From Tim to Kim! :)
I know that it's kinda hard to understand the ever changing evolution of humanity. However, at the end of the day, what's important is we have a lot of massive choices before us. We just have to be sure on what's the right one for us. We can't certainly not please everybody. Screw, the bullies and embrace the beautiful YOU! She is a budding new singer and a youtube sensation. She is the youngest in the world to undergo a sex change.
I know that it's kinda hard to understand the ever changing evolution of humanity. However, at the end of the day, what's important is we have a lot of massive choices before us. We just have to be sure on what's the right one for us. We can't certainly not please everybody. Screw, the bullies and embrace the beautiful YOU! She is a budding new singer and a youtube sensation. She is the youngest in the world to undergo a sex change.
Monday, August 22, 2011
My Summer Calypso Getaway 2011
Oh, the beauty of the sun, water and wind sweeping the whole place with laughter, deafening screams in the air. Summer. This a beautiful season that we can wear our fave bikini and just frolic in the sun and have friends around and enjoy the water cooling our bodies in the heat of the sun.
So, here's my little review about our visit to Calypso Waterpark yesterday. First of all, on a Friday night, I prepared my chocolate cupcakes because I was assigned to bring the desserts. I was multi-tasking that night. Of course, I slept late and had to wake up early the next day. Since Calypso Waterpark is in Ottawa, 75 minutes away from Montreal, I had to set my alarm at 5:30am. Whew!
Good friends picked me up from my place and we then, headed to our little weekend getaway.
About the Park
Calypso is Canada's biggest theme park. It's located in a 100-acre land and it's just massive and the rides are so gigantic that my head is spinning thinking of just going down from those massive rides and slides. I could even feel my knees shaking and my heart pounding of fear. Definitely, this is one place where you either have to face your fear of heights or chickened out from it. This is a place for young and old and visitors alike. "Humungous state-of-the-art slides, a river run, Canada's largest wave pool, thrilling rides—even a whitewater experience! You won't have time to be bored." It's really BIG!!
I definitely was in touch with the kid in me. My friends waited a little bit for the park to open and got our space to put our stuff away and food as well and get ready to enjoy the day. It opened at around 10am.
After lunch, off we go. The first thing we took was this,
We rode the perfect storm with my friends. On a six-person raft, plunge into a dark tunnel before Boomerango shoots you across to the opposite wall, way up to the sky...It was really sick! I screamed like I never screamed before...It was mad. I was sick in my stomach literally. I was so afraid to take the other rides after...Obviously, there was peer pressure, too. But I was glad I did it but I don't think I will do it again. I thought I was brave enough to face my fear of heights, apparently not! I was this close to turn around and go down and just watch them go down but the pressure was on! And then, we went on with Canyon Rafting. We're all in a group and the water was just crazy and splashing on your face and really just twisted!
Here's the link to the website so you could see it for yourself. www.calypso.com
And some links to our little summer getaway with friends.
http://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.2316335830509.136699.1312866130&type=1
http://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.10150291906143363.353777.685713362&type=1
So, here's my little review about our visit to Calypso Waterpark yesterday. First of all, on a Friday night, I prepared my chocolate cupcakes because I was assigned to bring the desserts. I was multi-tasking that night. Of course, I slept late and had to wake up early the next day. Since Calypso Waterpark is in Ottawa, 75 minutes away from Montreal, I had to set my alarm at 5:30am. Whew!
Good friends picked me up from my place and we then, headed to our little weekend getaway.
About the Park
Calypso is Canada's biggest theme park. It's located in a 100-acre land and it's just massive and the rides are so gigantic that my head is spinning thinking of just going down from those massive rides and slides. I could even feel my knees shaking and my heart pounding of fear. Definitely, this is one place where you either have to face your fear of heights or chickened out from it. This is a place for young and old and visitors alike. "Humungous state-of-the-art slides, a river run, Canada's largest wave pool, thrilling rides—even a whitewater experience! You won't have time to be bored." It's really BIG!!
I definitely was in touch with the kid in me. My friends waited a little bit for the park to open and got our space to put our stuff away and food as well and get ready to enjoy the day. It opened at around 10am.
After lunch, off we go. The first thing we took was this,
We rode the perfect storm with my friends. On a six-person raft, plunge into a dark tunnel before Boomerango shoots you across to the opposite wall, way up to the sky...It was really sick! I screamed like I never screamed before...It was mad. I was sick in my stomach literally. I was so afraid to take the other rides after...Obviously, there was peer pressure, too. But I was glad I did it but I don't think I will do it again. I thought I was brave enough to face my fear of heights, apparently not! I was this close to turn around and go down and just watch them go down but the pressure was on! And then, we went on with Canyon Rafting. We're all in a group and the water was just crazy and splashing on your face and really just twisted!
Here's the link to the website so you could see it for yourself. www.calypso.com
And some links to our little summer getaway with friends.
http://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.2316335830509.136699.1312866130&type=1
http://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.10150291906143363.353777.685713362&type=1
Tuesday, August 9, 2011
Sweet Liberty, Bonjour Permanent Residency!
Well, where do I begin? As a small child I already believed in dreaming big and pursuing it and making things happen. I remembered growing up and really keeping that vision alive in my soul and spirit. For all those who don't know me, I used to write my thoughts in notebooks, diaries and really having that internal conversation with myself and God. I can always picture myself doing things and going places...Sure, I am a country girl and I am super proud of that. However, there's something in my spirit that tells me that I can do more and be more...I am just happy to be surrounded with loving family and friends who supported me all the way. They're there for me when the going gets tough and when I am almost about to give up of a dream. Yes, I am a big rambler! I am proud of that as well. Laughs.
I can ramble all I want but that's not my goal here. Anyways, I have this dream as a child to travel and work abroad. When my parents heard about it while I was growing up, they're opposed to it and would not even support the idea of me being away from them. So, I said, well, since I am not of age yet to decide on what to do with my life, then, I will listen and heed their advice. However, it doesn't mean that I will let go of my dream. People dream but not all are given a chance to live their dream and make it come true. I am just amazed that I was given the rare opportunity to dream and live my dream, literally. Thank God!
I moved to Canada in May 2007 and did the caregiving program with an open heart and a little scared about what lies ahead with this major move. I completely started a life from ground zero. It was very humbling and I've learned so much out of life-being away from my loved ones and friends. The best thing I got out of it was tons of experience and learned the art of becoming a mother without giving birth, cook, bake and experiment on food and I fell in love doing it and skills on how to really take care of an elderly/child with a loving heart. I also learned how to fight for my own rights in a strange land. I find that there are mean people everywhere. If you let them take advantage of you, then, they will chew you and spit you out. Well, I chose my battle now that I am a mature person and still learning everyday.I must say I struggle everyday to fight against loneliness and being homesick. I thank God for my socializing skills and being a people person that I am it wasn't really a problem to blend in to a new environment.
So, technically today, I became a Permanent Resident of Canada! When, the agent from the Federal government said, "Welcome to Canada and congratulations!" I cried some happy tears! I made it! Dreams do come true. Thank God that I didn't gave up on this dream and quit. I don't stop dreaming and still keeping in touch with that child in me. I am so happy and I hope that one day I would be reunited with my family and friends back home and or they could come and visit me here as well.
Migrating to a foreign country is not that easy but it's my positive attitude that keeps me going. I am also thankful to my supportive friends who became an anchor and family to me whilst I am here--Berge, thank you!!! xoxo
I am also grateful to my aunt who was an instrument of making my dream come true. Bless you.
So, to all who can relate to my story, keep on dreaming and follow the desires of your heart.
This is Hazel Fernandez and this is my story. Cheers to all who keeps dreaming and making things happen! I hope my story inspires and I will continue to dream big! Way to go!
I can ramble all I want but that's not my goal here. Anyways, I have this dream as a child to travel and work abroad. When my parents heard about it while I was growing up, they're opposed to it and would not even support the idea of me being away from them. So, I said, well, since I am not of age yet to decide on what to do with my life, then, I will listen and heed their advice. However, it doesn't mean that I will let go of my dream. People dream but not all are given a chance to live their dream and make it come true. I am just amazed that I was given the rare opportunity to dream and live my dream, literally. Thank God!
I moved to Canada in May 2007 and did the caregiving program with an open heart and a little scared about what lies ahead with this major move. I completely started a life from ground zero. It was very humbling and I've learned so much out of life-being away from my loved ones and friends. The best thing I got out of it was tons of experience and learned the art of becoming a mother without giving birth, cook, bake and experiment on food and I fell in love doing it and skills on how to really take care of an elderly/child with a loving heart. I also learned how to fight for my own rights in a strange land. I find that there are mean people everywhere. If you let them take advantage of you, then, they will chew you and spit you out. Well, I chose my battle now that I am a mature person and still learning everyday.I must say I struggle everyday to fight against loneliness and being homesick. I thank God for my socializing skills and being a people person that I am it wasn't really a problem to blend in to a new environment.
So, technically today, I became a Permanent Resident of Canada! When, the agent from the Federal government said, "Welcome to Canada and congratulations!" I cried some happy tears! I made it! Dreams do come true. Thank God that I didn't gave up on this dream and quit. I don't stop dreaming and still keeping in touch with that child in me. I am so happy and I hope that one day I would be reunited with my family and friends back home and or they could come and visit me here as well.
Migrating to a foreign country is not that easy but it's my positive attitude that keeps me going. I am also thankful to my supportive friends who became an anchor and family to me whilst I am here--Berge, thank you!!! xoxo
I am also grateful to my aunt who was an instrument of making my dream come true. Bless you.
So, to all who can relate to my story, keep on dreaming and follow the desires of your heart.
This is Hazel Fernandez and this is my story. Cheers to all who keeps dreaming and making things happen! I hope my story inspires and I will continue to dream big! Way to go!
Monday, July 25, 2011
Maria Aragon the Young Youtube Sensation Meets Ellen Degeneres
I am super proud of this little fella, because she's Filipino and she's also just a very talented young lass and really have a good head on her shoulders, too! Apparently, Lady Gaga saw her video posted on youtube and asked her to have a duet with her in Toronto. She also sang for the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge.
Can you imagine, she's just 11 years old and is very mature for her age. In her interview with KC Concepcion on The Buzz, a local showbiz talk show in the Philippines, she said, "I cried when I saw that there are kids in my country who has no food and homeless on the streets and said to herself that she felt blessed and one of the privilege." She's born and raised in Winnepeg, Canada. I was so touched and actually cried watching her on tv.
Watching her on youtube makes me proud of myself growing up, that yes, I can say that I was also one of the few who can say that, "Dreams do come true." Sometimes people belittle you and underestimate your capacity and talent. However, you can't hide and stop the fire of passion that's burning from within you make a good influence to others along the way. She can be a good example to young kids growing up. Way to go, Maria Aragon! We'll cheer you on!
I remembered a verse growing up, King James Bible
"Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven."
Can you imagine, she's just 11 years old and is very mature for her age. In her interview with KC Concepcion on The Buzz, a local showbiz talk show in the Philippines, she said, "I cried when I saw that there are kids in my country who has no food and homeless on the streets and said to herself that she felt blessed and one of the privilege." She's born and raised in Winnepeg, Canada. I was so touched and actually cried watching her on tv.
Watching her on youtube makes me proud of myself growing up, that yes, I can say that I was also one of the few who can say that, "Dreams do come true." Sometimes people belittle you and underestimate your capacity and talent. However, you can't hide and stop the fire of passion that's burning from within you make a good influence to others along the way. She can be a good example to young kids growing up. Way to go, Maria Aragon! We'll cheer you on!
I remembered a verse growing up, King James Bible
"Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven."
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Friday, July 22, 2011
San Diego Comic Con 2011
Movie fans, check this out! Celebrities like Ashley Greene of Twilight Saga came down to San Diego to thank their fans who supported them all these time. Way to go, San Diego Comic Con. Please check www.joblo.com for more comic con updates! Rock on!
Monday, July 11, 2011
Magnolia's Vanilla Cupcake Recipe
Folks, it's been awhile since I posted something here. I have been so busy lately and I felt like I need to go ahead and focus on updating my blog since it's my passion and my way of releasing my tensions of my daily grind of life. Baking is such an amazing thing that I've ever learned ever since I decided to move to Canada for good.
Some of the closest people I know can't believe their eyes that I can actually cook and bake now. Anyways, I was able to check this bakery out when I went to New York last summer. People are waiting in line just to get a taste of these infamous cupcakes featured in the movie, "Sex and the City". When my boyfriend tasted it for the first time, being the critic that he is. He said, "This is the best cupcake I've ever tasted." Nice! It was all I wanted to hear! Music to my ears. So, enjoy and have fun in your kitchen.
Some of the closest people I know can't believe their eyes that I can actually cook and bake now. Anyways, I was able to check this bakery out when I went to New York last summer. People are waiting in line just to get a taste of these infamous cupcakes featured in the movie, "Sex and the City". When my boyfriend tasted it for the first time, being the critic that he is. He said, "This is the best cupcake I've ever tasted." Nice! It was all I wanted to hear! Music to my ears. So, enjoy and have fun in your kitchen.
Monday, July 4, 2011
Sparkling Wine Jelly Shooters
So, here's another art of making desserts with a touch of class! Lately, I've been having this interest into maybe going back to school. I am torn between nursing school or culinary. Gosh, I wish I am a little younger so I could go ahead and have a lot of time to really embark on so many different things in my life. If I have enough time in my hands, I do try new things. I recently watch cooking shows on tv and tape them and apply them in my kitchen.
It's summer and we need some fresh ideas and refreshing desserts as well, right? Here you go. I got this from a favorite website of mine. www.bestrecipes.ca
Imagine, if you have friends over and they see these lovely shooters? They would be impressed and be amazed! A simple recipe yet very elegant.
1 pomegranate
Preparation
Remove seeds from pomegranate; divide seeds and grapes among 12 glasses.
It's summer and we need some fresh ideas and refreshing desserts as well, right? Here you go. I got this from a favorite website of mine. www.bestrecipes.ca
Imagine, if you have friends over and they see these lovely shooters? They would be impressed and be amazed! A simple recipe yet very elegant.
The pomegranate seeds are like jewels and it's elegance is just a must-try for this jelly shooter. For people like me who are trying to lose weight, need not to worry because this lovely dessert is just 95 calories and a little trace of fat per serving. You can try different sparkling wine available in the market. Champagne is one of your choices yet if you are in a budget, then, feel free to go ahead and let your imagination run wild.
Servings: 12
Ingredients
Ingredients
1 pomegranate
1 cup (250 mL) small seedless red grapes or seedless green grapes, halved
1 bottle (750 mL) sparkling wine
2 tbsp (25 mL) gelatin powder
1/2 cup (125 mL) granulated sugar
Preparation
Remove seeds from pomegranate; divide seeds and grapes among 12 glasses.
Pour wine into large bowl; set aside.
In saucepan, sprinkle gelatin over 3/4 cup (175 mL) cold water; let stand for 5 minutes. Add sugar; heat over medium-low heat until dissolved, about 5 minutes. Whisk into wine; let stand until bubbles disappear, about 30 seconds. Pour over fruit in glasses.
Refrigerate until set, about 1-1/2 hours, gently stirring at 10-minute intervals for 40 minutes to evenly distribute fruit. (Make-ahead: Cover and refrigerate for up to 24 hours.)
Tuesday, June 28, 2011
Dangerous Heels, Literally!
Now, look at this few pieces that are really dangerous and really LITERALLY! Decide for yourselves.
In Australia, a woman was recently awarded around $60,000 after she tripped and fell down the stairs of a hotel she was staying at. Her nude stilettos actually became key evidence in her court case, and stood trial as a considerable cause of the fall. In the end, the judge decided that women were entitled to their heels even if it leaves them more susceptible to accidents. (Photo by: Jimmy Choo boot shoes via Kristopher Dukes)Problem: The platform wedge. "Very very high platform wedges, which are super hot right now, are prime suspects," says Meghan Cleary, resident shoe expert at shoeareyou.com. The most common injury they cause are what's known as a "ballet break". "It's when you fall off a wedge onto the side of your foot causing a stress fracture," says Cleary. "It happens because there is zero flexibility in the large platform, so your foot is locked into falling the way the platform heel dictates." Photo by: Alia Rafia platform wedge sandals via net-a-porterSolution: The mini wedge. For safe-walking get a sandal with more support at the ankle so you're less likely to suffer twists and turns. Bringing down the height will help minimize the distance you fall. Photo by: Alexander Wang braided mini-wedges via Saks.comPlease check the link below for more photos...http://ca.shine.yahoo.com/photos/the-most-dangerous-high-heels-1308931157-slideshow/ |
Thursday, June 23, 2011
Five-Year Old Make Up Guru
Let's start with a positive note here. She is the new sensation for make up guru's out there you see on www.youtube.com. It's gone viral right now. She is adorable, cute, spot on and really amazing to look at. I have no problem watching this video over and over again. However, she's a five year old little angel. I don't know if she could get away with this. There's a lot of buzz out there right now if she should stay as a small girl playing dolls and running around park and not teaching people on how to put make up just yet. As much as she is a little innocent angel, it's a fine line to walk. So, for the mom's out there, what's your two cents on this video? Would you be okay with the idea that your little girl should put make up on as early as this age? If I were her mother, I would let her play around with my stuff and still know where to draw the line.
http://www.youtube.com/user/mzzclipper12
http://www.youtube.com/user/mzzclipper12
Monday, June 20, 2011
My Man is The Green Lantern
Folks, let's all watch this movie! I can't wait to see Ryan Reynolds again! He is simply awesome.
If you want to check movie reviews then, check www.joblo.com
If you want to check movie reviews then, check www.joblo.com
Tuesday, June 14, 2011
Love, Michelle Obama's Fashion Picks!
Michelle Obama is such a great model for all women out there. I love her class and the way she carries herself in formal events and her picks for day to day events. She can definitely rock any style no matter what the price tag on it. I know that she has the privilege to wear any designer clothing out there especially the high-end ones but she chose to wear something that the general population can very much relate to in this trying times with our economy. Take a quick look! Love it!
It's always how you carry yourself! I say, I go for classic as it doesn't go out of style, at all. It's always good to be on a safe side, however, if you want to be creative and unique you certainly, can! Peace!
It's always how you carry yourself! I say, I go for classic as it doesn't go out of style, at all. It's always good to be on a safe side, however, if you want to be creative and unique you certainly, can! Peace!
Rocking a Gap Top |
Sunday, June 12, 2011
Falafel Recipe
I love almost all the Mediterranean food. It's super healthy and light in the stomach. Today, I will share something that a friend of mine has taught me to prepare. It's so yummy, I can't resist but just chow it down!
Prep Time: 15 minutes
Cook Time: 1 hour, 45 minutes
Total Time: 1 hour, 60 minutes
Ingredients:
5 romaine lettuce leaves, chopped
1 large onion, chopped
2 cloves of garlic, chopped
3 tablespoons of fresh parsley, chopped
4 turnips/pickles
1 teaspoon coriander
1 teaspoon cumin
2 tablespoons flour
Salt
pepper
Mazola Oil for frying
Preparation:
Combine garlic, onion, coriander, cumin, salt and pepper (to taste) in medium bowl.
Make sure to mix ingredients together. You can also combine ingredients in a food processor. You want the result to be a thick paste.
Form the mixture into small balls, about the size of a ping pong ball. Slightly flatten.
Fry in 2 inches of oil at 350 degrees until golden brown (5-7 minutes).
Serve hot. Enjoy!
Sauce:
Plain yogurt,salt,pepper,lemon juice
Serving Suggestion
Falafel can be served as an appetizer with hummus and tahini, or as a main course. Stuff pita bread with falafel, lettuce, tomatoes, tahini, salt and pepper. As an alternative, falafel can be formed into patties and served like a burger.
Serves 4.
Prep Time: 15 minutes
Cook Time: 1 hour, 45 minutes
Total Time: 1 hour, 60 minutes
Ingredients:
5 romaine lettuce leaves, chopped
1 large onion, chopped
2 cloves of garlic, chopped
3 tablespoons of fresh parsley, chopped
4 turnips/pickles
1 teaspoon coriander
1 teaspoon cumin
2 tablespoons flour
Salt
pepper
Mazola Oil for frying
Preparation:
Combine garlic, onion, coriander, cumin, salt and pepper (to taste) in medium bowl.
Make sure to mix ingredients together. You can also combine ingredients in a food processor. You want the result to be a thick paste.
Form the mixture into small balls, about the size of a ping pong ball. Slightly flatten.
Fry in 2 inches of oil at 350 degrees until golden brown (5-7 minutes).
Serve hot. Enjoy!
Sauce:
Plain yogurt,salt,pepper,lemon juice
Serving Suggestion
Falafel can be served as an appetizer with hummus and tahini, or as a main course. Stuff pita bread with falafel, lettuce, tomatoes, tahini, salt and pepper. As an alternative, falafel can be formed into patties and served like a burger.
Serves 4.
Monday, June 6, 2011
Pint-Sized Picasso
Guys, watch this little girl who is just a four years old. Take a look at this video and see for yourself. When she's doing her painting, she is just acting as a child, however, she does not really understand the gravity of her talent that impacts the world around her. Her art is said to be selling hundreds of dollars all over the world. She adorable!
Wednesday, June 1, 2011
Moist Chocolate Cake
I found this new passion of mine, lately! It is called BAKING! It's so refreshing and really helps a lot when you are kind of stress, sometimes. Anyways, I tried this recipe and brought along some slices to work and gave it some of my fave co-workers and here's what they had to say, "It's so yummy, It's so delicious and moist!" And so on and so forth. I felt proud for the first time when I am not really a cook, baker or anything close to that according to my mom and siblings, years back! But not anymore! It may be a long road to get to where I am right now but it's definitely worth it! Please give this a try and let me know what you think! I can't wait to bake this again and entertain my friends. I grabbed this recipe from www.marthastewart.com
Option:
I didn't use eggs, brown sugar, or buttermilk. I also didn't throw in nuts because some of my officemates are allergic to it. I just used 1 cup of Mazola Veggie Oil and a cup of Cold Water. Feel free to make the recipe your own.
Ingredients
- 1 cup (2 sticks) unsalted butter, room temperature, plus more for pans
- 1/2 cup unsweetened Dutch-process cocoa (spooned and leveled), plus more for pans
- 2 cups all-purpose flour (spooned and leveled)
- 1/2 teaspoon baking powder
- 1/2 teaspoon baking soda
- 1/2 teaspoon salt
- 1 1/2 cups packed light-brown sugar
- 2 large eggs plus 2 large egg yolks, room temperature
- 6 ounces bittersweet chocolate, melted
- 1 teaspoon pure vanilla extract
- 1 cup low-fat buttermilk
- Dark-Chocolate Ganache
I didn't use eggs, brown sugar, or buttermilk. I also didn't throw in nuts because some of my officemates are allergic to it. I just used 1 cup of Mazola Veggie Oil and a cup of Cold Water. Feel free to make the recipe your own.
Directions
- Preheat oven to 350. Butter two 8-inch round cake pans; dust with cocoa, tapping out excess. Line bottom of each pan with a round of parchment paper; set aside. In a medium bowl, whisk together flour, cocoa, baking powder, baking soda, and salt; set aside.
- In a large bowl, using an electric mixer, beat butter and sugar until light and fluffy. Add eggs and yolks, one at a time, beating well after each addition; beat in chocolate and vanilla. With mixer on low, alternately add flour mixture in three parts and buttermilk in two, beginning and ending with flour mixture.
- Divide batter between prepared pans; smooth tops. Bake until a toothpick inserted in center of a cake comes out clean, 40 to 45 minutes. Cool in pans 15 minutes; run a knife around edge of each pan, and invert cakes onto a wire rack to cool completely.
- Set a rimmed baking sheet upside down on a work surface. Place one cake on sheet, and spread top with 1/3 of ganache. Place second cake on top, and spread remaining ganache over top and sides of cake. Using two wide metal spatulas, carefully transfer frosted cake to a serving platter.
Wednesday, May 25, 2011
The 48 Laws of Power
This is so hard to pass and not share. I just took it from a friend's post on Facebook. It is so positive and I am so happy to share this to all of you as well. Let's learn more about life and love life more and be a blessing to others.
by Robert Greene and Joost Elffers
Law 1
Never Outshine the Master
Always make those above you feel comfortably superior. In your desire to please or impress them, do not go too far in displaying your talents or you might accomplish the opposite – inspire fear and insecurity. Make your masters appear more brilliant than they are and you will attain the heights of power.
Law 2
Never put too Much Trust in Friends, Learn how to use Enemies
Be wary of friends-they will betray you more quickly, for they are easily aroused to envy. They also become spoiled and tyrannical. But hire a former enemy and he will be more loyal than a friend, because he has more to prove. In fact, you have more to fear from friends than from enemies. If you have no enemies, find a way to make them.
Law 3
Conceal your Intentions
Keep people off-balance and in the dark by never revealing the purpose behind your actions. If they have no clue what you are up to, they cannot prepare a defense. Guide them far enough down the wrong path, envelope them in enough smoke, and by the time they realize your intentions, it will be too late.
Law 4
Always Say Less than Necessary
When you are trying to impress people with words, the more you say, the more common you appear, and the less in control. Even if you are saying something banal, it will seem original if you make it vague, open-ended, and sphinxlike. Powerful people impress and intimidate by saying less. The more you say, the more likely you are to say something foolish.
Law 5
So Much Depends on Reputation – Guard it with your Life
Reputation is the cornerstone of power. Through reputation alone you can intimidate and win; once you slip, however, you are vulnerable, and will be attacked on all sides. Make your reputation unassailable. Always be alert to potential attacks and thwart them before they happen. Meanwhile, learn to destroy your enemies by opening holes in their own reputations. Then stand aside and let public opinion hang them.
Law 6
Court Attention at all Cost
Everything is judged by its appearance; what is unseen counts for nothing. Never let yourself get lost in the crowd, then, or buried in oblivion. Stand out. Be conspicuous, at all cost. Make yourself a magnet of attention by appearing larger, more colorful, more mysterious, than the bland and timid masses.
Law 7
Get others to do the Work for you, but Always Take the Credit
Use the wisdom, knowledge, and legwork of other people to further your own cause. Not only will such assistance save you valuable time and energy, it will give you a godlike aura of efficiency and speed. In the end your helpers will be forgotten and you will be remembered. Never do yourself what others can do for you.
Law 8
Make other People come to you – use Bait if Necessary
When you force the other person to act, you are the one in control. It is always better to make your opponent come to you, abandoning his own plans in the process. Lure him with fabulous gains – then attack. You hold the cards.
Law 9
Win through your Actions, Never through Argument
Any momentary triumph you think gained through argument is really a Pyrrhic victory: The resentment and ill will you stir up is stronger and lasts longer than any momentary change of opinion. It is much more powerful to get others to agree with you through your actions, without saying a word. Demonstrate, do not explicate.
Law 10
Infection: Avoid the Unhappy and Unlucky
You can die from someone else’s misery – emotional states are as infectious as disease. You may feel you are helping the drowning man but you are only precipitating your own disaster. The unfortunate sometimes draw misfortune on themselves; they will also draw it on you. Associate with the happy and fortunate instead.
Law 11
Learn to Keep People Dependent on You
To maintain your independence you must always be needed and wanted. The more you are relied on, the more freedom you have. Make people depend on you for their happiness and prosperity and you have nothing to fear. Never teach them enough so that they can do without you.
Law 12
Use Selective Honesty and Generosity to Disarm your Victim
One sincere and honest move will cover over dozens of dishonest ones. Open-hearted gestures of honesty and generosity bring down the guard of even the most suspicious people. Once your selective honesty opens a hole in their armor, you can deceive and manipulate them at will. A timely gift – a Trojan horse – will serve the same purpose.
Law 13
When Asking for Help, Appeal to People’s Self-Interest,
Never to their Mercy or Gratitude
If you need to turn to an ally for help, do not bother to remind him of your past assistance and good deeds. He will find a way to ignore you. Instead, uncover something in your request, or in your alliance with him, that will benefit him, and emphasize it out of all proportion. He will respond enthusiastically when he sees something to be gained for himself.
Law 14
Pose as a Friend, Work as a Spy
Knowing about your rival is critical. Use spies to gather valuable information that will keep you a step ahead. Better still: Play the spy yourself. In polite social encounters, learn to probe. Ask indirect questions to get people to reveal their weaknesses and intentions. There is no occasion that is not an opportunity for artful spying.
Law 15
Crush your Enemy Totally
All great leaders since Moses have known that a feared enemy must be crushed completely. (Sometimes they have learned this the hard way.) If one ember is left alight, no matter how dimly it smolders, a fire will eventually break out. More is lost through stopping halfway than through total annihilation: The enemy will recover, and will seek revenge. Crush him, not only in body but in spirit.
Law 16
Use Absence to Increase Respect and Honor
Too much circulation makes the price go down: The more you are seen and heard from, the more common you appear. If you are already established in a group, temporary withdrawal from it will make you more talked about, even more admired. You must learn when to leave. Create value through scarcity.
Law 17
Keep Others in Suspended Terror: Cultivate an Air of Unpredictability
Humans are creatures of habit with an insatiable need to see familiarity in other people’s actions. Your predictability gives them a sense of control. Turn the tables: Be deliberately unpredictable. Behavior that seems to have no consistency or purpose will keep them off-balance, and they will wear themselves out trying to explain your moves. Taken to an extreme, this strategy can intimidate and terrorize.
Law 18
Do Not Build Fortresses to Protect Yourself – Isolation is Dangerous
The world is dangerous and enemies are everywhere – everyone has to protect themselves. A fortress seems the safest. But isolation exposes you to more dangers than it protects you from – it cuts you off from valuable information, it makes you conspicuous and an easy target. Better to circulate among people find allies, mingle. You are shielded from your enemies by the crowd.
Law 19
Know Who You’re Dealing with – Do Not Offend the Wrong Person
There are many different kinds of people in the world, and you can never assume that everyone will react to your strategies in the same way. Deceive or outmaneuver some people and they will spend the rest of their lives seeking revenge. They are wolves in lambs’ clothing. Choose your victims and opponents carefully, then – never offend or deceive the wrong person.
Law 20
Do Not Commit to Anyone
It is the fool who always rushes to take sides. Do not commit to any side or cause but yourself. By maintaining your independence, you become the master of others – playing people against one another, making them pursue you.
Law 21
Play a Sucker to Catch a Sucker – Seem Dumber than your Mark
No one likes feeling stupider than the next persons. The trick, is to make your victims feel smart – and not just smart, but smarter than you are. Once convinced of this, they will never suspect that you may have ulterior motives.
Law 22
Use the Surrender Tactic: Transform Weakness into Power
When you are weaker, never fight for honor’s sake; choose surrender instead. Surrender gives you time to recover, time to torment and irritate your conqueror, time to wait for his power to wane. Do not give him the satisfaction of fighting and defeating you – surrender first. By turning the other check you infuriate and unsettle him. Make surrender a tool of power.
Law 23
Concentrate Your Forces
Conserve your forces and energies by keeping them concentrated at their strongest point. You gain more by finding a rich mine and mining it deeper, than by flitting from one shallow mine to another – intensity defeats extensity every time. When looking for sources of power to elevate you, find the one key patron, the fat cow who will give you milk for a long time to come.
Law 24
Play the Perfect Courtier
The perfect courtier thrives in a world where everything revolves around power and political dexterity. He has mastered the art of indirection; he flatters, yields to superiors, and asserts power over others in the mot oblique and graceful manner. Learn and apply the laws of courtiership and there will be no limit to how far you can rise in the court.
Law 25
Re-Create Yourself
Do not accept the roles that society foists on you. Re-create yourself by forging a new identity, one that commands attention and never bores the audience. Be the master of your own image rather than letting others define if for you. Incorporate dramatic devices into your public gestures and actions – your power will be enhanced and your character will seem larger than life.
Law 26
Keep Your Hands Clean
You must seem a paragon of civility and efficiency: Your hands are never soiled by mistakes and nasty deeds. Maintain such a spotless appearance by using others as scapegoats and cat’s-paws to disguise your involvement.
Law 27
Play on People’s Need to Believe to Create a Cultlike Following
People have an overwhelming desire to believe in something. Become the focal point of such desire by offering them a cause, a new faith to follow. Keep your words vague but full of promise; emphasize enthusiasm over rationality and clear thinking. Give your new disciples rituals to perform, ask them to make sacrifices on your behalf. In the absence of organized religion and grand causes, your new belief system will bring you untold power.
Law 28
Enter Action with Boldness
If you are unsure of a course of action, do not attempt it. Your doubts and hesitations will infect your execution. Timidity is dangerous: Better to enter with boldness. Any mistakes you commit through audacity are easily corrected with more audacity. Everyone admires the bold; no one honors the timid.
Law 29
Plan All the Way to the End
The ending is everything. Plan all the way to it, taking into account all the possible consequences, obstacles, and twists of fortune that might reverse your hard work and give the glory to others. By planning to the end you will not be overwhelmed by circumstances and you will know when to stop. Gently guide fortune and help determine the future by thinking far ahead.
Law 30
Make your Accomplishments Seem Effortless
Your actions must seem natural and executed with ease. All the toil and practice that go into them, and also all the clever tricks, must be concealed. When you act, act effortlessly, as if you could do much more. Avoid the temptation of revealing how hard you work – it only raises questions. Teach no one your tricks or they will be used against you.
Law 31
Control the Options: Get Others to Play with the Cards you Deal
The best deceptions are the ones that seem to give the other person a choice: Your victims feel they are in control, but are actually your puppets. Give people options that come out in your favor whichever one they choose. Force them to make choices between the lesser of two evils, both of which serve your purpose. Put them on the horns of a dilemma: They are gored wherever they turn.
Law 32
Play to People’s Fantasies
The truth is often avoided because it is ugly and unpleasant. Never appeal to truth and reality unless you are prepared for the anger that comes for disenchantment. Life is so harsh and distressing that people who can manufacture romance or conjure up fantasy are like oases in the desert: Everyone flocks to them. There is great power in tapping into the fantasies of the masses.
Law 33
Discover Each Man’s Thumbscrew
Everyone has a weakness, a gap in the castle wall. That weakness is usual y an insecurity, an uncontrollable emotion or need; it can also be a small secret pleasure. Either way, once found, it is a thumbscrew you can turn to your advantage.
Law 34
Be Royal in your Own Fashion: Act like a King to be treated like one
The way you carry yourself will often determine how you are treated; In the long run, appearing vulgar or common will make people disrespect you. For a king respects himself and inspires the same sentiment in others. By acting regally and confident of your powers, you make yourself seem destined to wear a crown.
Law 35
Master the Art of Timing
Never seem to be in a hurry – hurrying betrays a lack of control over yourself, and over time. Always seem patient, as if you know that everything will come to you eventually. Become a detective of the right moment; sniff out the spirit of the times, the trends that will carry you to power. Learn to stand back when the time is not yet ripe, and to strike fiercely when it has reached fruition.
Law 36
Disdain Things you cannot have: Ignoring them is the best Revenge
By acknowledging a petty problem you give it existence and credibility. The more attention you pay an enemy, the stronger you make him; and a small mistake is often made worse and more visible when you try to fix it. It is sometimes best to leave things alone. If there is something you want but cannot have, show contempt for it. The less interest you reveal, the more superior you seem.
Law 37
Create Compelling Spectacles
Striking imagery and grand symbolic gestures create the aura of power – everyone responds to them. Stage spectacles for those around you, then full of arresting visuals and radiant symbols that heighten your presence. Dazzled by appearances, no one will notice what you are really doing.
Law 38
Think as you like but Behave like others
If you make a show of going against the times, flaunting your unconventional ideas and unorthodox ways, people will think that you only want attention and that you look down upon them. They will find a way to punish you for making them feel inferior. It is far safer to blend in and nurture the common touch. Share your originality only with tolerant friends and those who are sure to appreciate your uniqueness.
Law 39
Stir up Waters to Catch Fish
Anger and emotion are strategically counterproductive. You must always stay calm and objective. But if you can make your enemies angry while staying calm yourself, you gain a decided advantage. Put your enemies off-balance: Find the chink in their vanity through which you can rattle them and you hold the strings.
Law 40
Despise the Free Lunch
What is offered for free is dangerous – it usually involves either a trick or a hidden obligation. What has worth is worth paying for. By paying your own way you stay clear of gratitude, guilt, and deceit. It is also often wise to pay the full price – there is no cutting corners with excellence. Be lavish with your money and keep it circulating, for generosity is a sign and a magnet for power.
Law 41
Avoid Stepping into a Great Man’s Shoes
What happens first always appears better and more original than what comes after. If you succeed a great man or have a famous parent, you will have to accomplish double their achievements to outshine them. Do not get lost in their shadow, or stuck in a past not of your own making: Establish your own name and identity by changing course. Slay the overbearing father, disparage his legacy, and gain power by shining in your own way.
Law 42
Strike the Shepherd and the Sheep will Scatter
Trouble can often be traced to a single strong individual – the stirrer, the arrogant underling, the poisoned of goodwill. If you allow such people room to operate, others will succumb to their influence. Do not wait for the troubles they cause to multiply, do not try to negotiate with them – they are irredeemable. Neutralize their influence by isolating or banishing them. Strike at the source of the trouble and the sheep will scatter.
Law 43
Work on the Hearts and Minds of Others
Coercion creates a reaction that will eventually work against you. You must seduce others into wanting to move in your direction. A person you have seduced becomes your loyal pawn. And the way to seduce others is to operate on their individual psychologies and weaknesses. Soften up the resistant by working on their emotions, playing on what they hold dear and what they fear. Ignore the hearts and minds of others and they will grow to hate you.
Law 44
Disarm and Infuriate with the Mirror Effect
The mirror reflects reality, but it is also the perfect tool for deception: When you mirror your enemies, doing exactly as they do, they cannot figure out your strategy. The Mirror Effect mocks and humiliates them, making them overreact. By holding up a mirror to their psyches, you seduce them with the illusion that you share their values; by holding up a mirror to their actions, you teach them a lesson. Few can resist the power of Mirror Effect.
Law 45
Preach the Need for Change, but Never Reform too much at Once
Everyone understands the need for change in the abstract, but on the day-to-day level people are creatures of habit. Too much innovation is traumatic, and will lead to revolt. If you are new to a position of power, or an outsider trying to build a power base, make a show of respecting the old way of doing things. If change is necessary, make it feel like a gentle improvement on the past.
Law 46
Never appear too Perfect
Appearing better than others is always dangerous, but most dangerous of all is to appear to have no faults or weaknesses. Envy creates silent enemies. It is smart to occasionally display defects, and admit to harmless vices, in order to deflect envy and appear more human and approachable. Only gods and the dead can seem perfect with impunity.
Law 47
Do not go Past the Mark you Aimed for; In Victory, Learn when to Stop
The moment of victory is often the moment of greatest peril. In the heat of victory, arrogance and overconfidence can push you past the goal you had aimed for, and by going too far, you make more enemies than you defeat. Do not allow success to go to your head. There is no substitute for strategy and careful planning. Set a goal, and when you reach it, stop.
Law 48
Assume Formlessness
By taking a shape, by having a visible plan, you open yourself to attack. Instead of taking a form for your enemy to grasp, keep yourself adaptable and on the move. Accept the fact that nothing is certain and no law is fixed. The best way to protect yourself is to be as fluid and formless as water; never bet on stability or lasting order. Everything changes.
by Robert Greene and Joost Elffers
Law 1
Never Outshine the Master
Always make those above you feel comfortably superior. In your desire to please or impress them, do not go too far in displaying your talents or you might accomplish the opposite – inspire fear and insecurity. Make your masters appear more brilliant than they are and you will attain the heights of power.
Law 2
Never put too Much Trust in Friends, Learn how to use Enemies
Be wary of friends-they will betray you more quickly, for they are easily aroused to envy. They also become spoiled and tyrannical. But hire a former enemy and he will be more loyal than a friend, because he has more to prove. In fact, you have more to fear from friends than from enemies. If you have no enemies, find a way to make them.
Law 3
Conceal your Intentions
Keep people off-balance and in the dark by never revealing the purpose behind your actions. If they have no clue what you are up to, they cannot prepare a defense. Guide them far enough down the wrong path, envelope them in enough smoke, and by the time they realize your intentions, it will be too late.
Law 4
Always Say Less than Necessary
When you are trying to impress people with words, the more you say, the more common you appear, and the less in control. Even if you are saying something banal, it will seem original if you make it vague, open-ended, and sphinxlike. Powerful people impress and intimidate by saying less. The more you say, the more likely you are to say something foolish.
Law 5
So Much Depends on Reputation – Guard it with your Life
Reputation is the cornerstone of power. Through reputation alone you can intimidate and win; once you slip, however, you are vulnerable, and will be attacked on all sides. Make your reputation unassailable. Always be alert to potential attacks and thwart them before they happen. Meanwhile, learn to destroy your enemies by opening holes in their own reputations. Then stand aside and let public opinion hang them.
Law 6
Court Attention at all Cost
Everything is judged by its appearance; what is unseen counts for nothing. Never let yourself get lost in the crowd, then, or buried in oblivion. Stand out. Be conspicuous, at all cost. Make yourself a magnet of attention by appearing larger, more colorful, more mysterious, than the bland and timid masses.
Law 7
Get others to do the Work for you, but Always Take the Credit
Use the wisdom, knowledge, and legwork of other people to further your own cause. Not only will such assistance save you valuable time and energy, it will give you a godlike aura of efficiency and speed. In the end your helpers will be forgotten and you will be remembered. Never do yourself what others can do for you.
Law 8
Make other People come to you – use Bait if Necessary
When you force the other person to act, you are the one in control. It is always better to make your opponent come to you, abandoning his own plans in the process. Lure him with fabulous gains – then attack. You hold the cards.
Law 9
Win through your Actions, Never through Argument
Any momentary triumph you think gained through argument is really a Pyrrhic victory: The resentment and ill will you stir up is stronger and lasts longer than any momentary change of opinion. It is much more powerful to get others to agree with you through your actions, without saying a word. Demonstrate, do not explicate.
Law 10
Infection: Avoid the Unhappy and Unlucky
You can die from someone else’s misery – emotional states are as infectious as disease. You may feel you are helping the drowning man but you are only precipitating your own disaster. The unfortunate sometimes draw misfortune on themselves; they will also draw it on you. Associate with the happy and fortunate instead.
Law 11
Learn to Keep People Dependent on You
To maintain your independence you must always be needed and wanted. The more you are relied on, the more freedom you have. Make people depend on you for their happiness and prosperity and you have nothing to fear. Never teach them enough so that they can do without you.
Law 12
Use Selective Honesty and Generosity to Disarm your Victim
One sincere and honest move will cover over dozens of dishonest ones. Open-hearted gestures of honesty and generosity bring down the guard of even the most suspicious people. Once your selective honesty opens a hole in their armor, you can deceive and manipulate them at will. A timely gift – a Trojan horse – will serve the same purpose.
Law 13
When Asking for Help, Appeal to People’s Self-Interest,
Never to their Mercy or Gratitude
If you need to turn to an ally for help, do not bother to remind him of your past assistance and good deeds. He will find a way to ignore you. Instead, uncover something in your request, or in your alliance with him, that will benefit him, and emphasize it out of all proportion. He will respond enthusiastically when he sees something to be gained for himself.
Law 14
Pose as a Friend, Work as a Spy
Knowing about your rival is critical. Use spies to gather valuable information that will keep you a step ahead. Better still: Play the spy yourself. In polite social encounters, learn to probe. Ask indirect questions to get people to reveal their weaknesses and intentions. There is no occasion that is not an opportunity for artful spying.
Law 15
Crush your Enemy Totally
All great leaders since Moses have known that a feared enemy must be crushed completely. (Sometimes they have learned this the hard way.) If one ember is left alight, no matter how dimly it smolders, a fire will eventually break out. More is lost through stopping halfway than through total annihilation: The enemy will recover, and will seek revenge. Crush him, not only in body but in spirit.
Law 16
Use Absence to Increase Respect and Honor
Too much circulation makes the price go down: The more you are seen and heard from, the more common you appear. If you are already established in a group, temporary withdrawal from it will make you more talked about, even more admired. You must learn when to leave. Create value through scarcity.
Law 17
Keep Others in Suspended Terror: Cultivate an Air of Unpredictability
Humans are creatures of habit with an insatiable need to see familiarity in other people’s actions. Your predictability gives them a sense of control. Turn the tables: Be deliberately unpredictable. Behavior that seems to have no consistency or purpose will keep them off-balance, and they will wear themselves out trying to explain your moves. Taken to an extreme, this strategy can intimidate and terrorize.
Law 18
Do Not Build Fortresses to Protect Yourself – Isolation is Dangerous
The world is dangerous and enemies are everywhere – everyone has to protect themselves. A fortress seems the safest. But isolation exposes you to more dangers than it protects you from – it cuts you off from valuable information, it makes you conspicuous and an easy target. Better to circulate among people find allies, mingle. You are shielded from your enemies by the crowd.
Law 19
Know Who You’re Dealing with – Do Not Offend the Wrong Person
There are many different kinds of people in the world, and you can never assume that everyone will react to your strategies in the same way. Deceive or outmaneuver some people and they will spend the rest of their lives seeking revenge. They are wolves in lambs’ clothing. Choose your victims and opponents carefully, then – never offend or deceive the wrong person.
Law 20
Do Not Commit to Anyone
It is the fool who always rushes to take sides. Do not commit to any side or cause but yourself. By maintaining your independence, you become the master of others – playing people against one another, making them pursue you.
Law 21
Play a Sucker to Catch a Sucker – Seem Dumber than your Mark
No one likes feeling stupider than the next persons. The trick, is to make your victims feel smart – and not just smart, but smarter than you are. Once convinced of this, they will never suspect that you may have ulterior motives.
Law 22
Use the Surrender Tactic: Transform Weakness into Power
When you are weaker, never fight for honor’s sake; choose surrender instead. Surrender gives you time to recover, time to torment and irritate your conqueror, time to wait for his power to wane. Do not give him the satisfaction of fighting and defeating you – surrender first. By turning the other check you infuriate and unsettle him. Make surrender a tool of power.
Law 23
Concentrate Your Forces
Conserve your forces and energies by keeping them concentrated at their strongest point. You gain more by finding a rich mine and mining it deeper, than by flitting from one shallow mine to another – intensity defeats extensity every time. When looking for sources of power to elevate you, find the one key patron, the fat cow who will give you milk for a long time to come.
Law 24
Play the Perfect Courtier
The perfect courtier thrives in a world where everything revolves around power and political dexterity. He has mastered the art of indirection; he flatters, yields to superiors, and asserts power over others in the mot oblique and graceful manner. Learn and apply the laws of courtiership and there will be no limit to how far you can rise in the court.
Law 25
Re-Create Yourself
Do not accept the roles that society foists on you. Re-create yourself by forging a new identity, one that commands attention and never bores the audience. Be the master of your own image rather than letting others define if for you. Incorporate dramatic devices into your public gestures and actions – your power will be enhanced and your character will seem larger than life.
Law 26
Keep Your Hands Clean
You must seem a paragon of civility and efficiency: Your hands are never soiled by mistakes and nasty deeds. Maintain such a spotless appearance by using others as scapegoats and cat’s-paws to disguise your involvement.
Law 27
Play on People’s Need to Believe to Create a Cultlike Following
People have an overwhelming desire to believe in something. Become the focal point of such desire by offering them a cause, a new faith to follow. Keep your words vague but full of promise; emphasize enthusiasm over rationality and clear thinking. Give your new disciples rituals to perform, ask them to make sacrifices on your behalf. In the absence of organized religion and grand causes, your new belief system will bring you untold power.
Law 28
Enter Action with Boldness
If you are unsure of a course of action, do not attempt it. Your doubts and hesitations will infect your execution. Timidity is dangerous: Better to enter with boldness. Any mistakes you commit through audacity are easily corrected with more audacity. Everyone admires the bold; no one honors the timid.
Law 29
Plan All the Way to the End
The ending is everything. Plan all the way to it, taking into account all the possible consequences, obstacles, and twists of fortune that might reverse your hard work and give the glory to others. By planning to the end you will not be overwhelmed by circumstances and you will know when to stop. Gently guide fortune and help determine the future by thinking far ahead.
Law 30
Make your Accomplishments Seem Effortless
Your actions must seem natural and executed with ease. All the toil and practice that go into them, and also all the clever tricks, must be concealed. When you act, act effortlessly, as if you could do much more. Avoid the temptation of revealing how hard you work – it only raises questions. Teach no one your tricks or they will be used against you.
Law 31
Control the Options: Get Others to Play with the Cards you Deal
The best deceptions are the ones that seem to give the other person a choice: Your victims feel they are in control, but are actually your puppets. Give people options that come out in your favor whichever one they choose. Force them to make choices between the lesser of two evils, both of which serve your purpose. Put them on the horns of a dilemma: They are gored wherever they turn.
Law 32
Play to People’s Fantasies
The truth is often avoided because it is ugly and unpleasant. Never appeal to truth and reality unless you are prepared for the anger that comes for disenchantment. Life is so harsh and distressing that people who can manufacture romance or conjure up fantasy are like oases in the desert: Everyone flocks to them. There is great power in tapping into the fantasies of the masses.
Law 33
Discover Each Man’s Thumbscrew
Everyone has a weakness, a gap in the castle wall. That weakness is usual y an insecurity, an uncontrollable emotion or need; it can also be a small secret pleasure. Either way, once found, it is a thumbscrew you can turn to your advantage.
Law 34
Be Royal in your Own Fashion: Act like a King to be treated like one
The way you carry yourself will often determine how you are treated; In the long run, appearing vulgar or common will make people disrespect you. For a king respects himself and inspires the same sentiment in others. By acting regally and confident of your powers, you make yourself seem destined to wear a crown.
Law 35
Master the Art of Timing
Never seem to be in a hurry – hurrying betrays a lack of control over yourself, and over time. Always seem patient, as if you know that everything will come to you eventually. Become a detective of the right moment; sniff out the spirit of the times, the trends that will carry you to power. Learn to stand back when the time is not yet ripe, and to strike fiercely when it has reached fruition.
Law 36
Disdain Things you cannot have: Ignoring them is the best Revenge
By acknowledging a petty problem you give it existence and credibility. The more attention you pay an enemy, the stronger you make him; and a small mistake is often made worse and more visible when you try to fix it. It is sometimes best to leave things alone. If there is something you want but cannot have, show contempt for it. The less interest you reveal, the more superior you seem.
Law 37
Create Compelling Spectacles
Striking imagery and grand symbolic gestures create the aura of power – everyone responds to them. Stage spectacles for those around you, then full of arresting visuals and radiant symbols that heighten your presence. Dazzled by appearances, no one will notice what you are really doing.
Law 38
Think as you like but Behave like others
If you make a show of going against the times, flaunting your unconventional ideas and unorthodox ways, people will think that you only want attention and that you look down upon them. They will find a way to punish you for making them feel inferior. It is far safer to blend in and nurture the common touch. Share your originality only with tolerant friends and those who are sure to appreciate your uniqueness.
Law 39
Stir up Waters to Catch Fish
Anger and emotion are strategically counterproductive. You must always stay calm and objective. But if you can make your enemies angry while staying calm yourself, you gain a decided advantage. Put your enemies off-balance: Find the chink in their vanity through which you can rattle them and you hold the strings.
Law 40
Despise the Free Lunch
What is offered for free is dangerous – it usually involves either a trick or a hidden obligation. What has worth is worth paying for. By paying your own way you stay clear of gratitude, guilt, and deceit. It is also often wise to pay the full price – there is no cutting corners with excellence. Be lavish with your money and keep it circulating, for generosity is a sign and a magnet for power.
Law 41
Avoid Stepping into a Great Man’s Shoes
What happens first always appears better and more original than what comes after. If you succeed a great man or have a famous parent, you will have to accomplish double their achievements to outshine them. Do not get lost in their shadow, or stuck in a past not of your own making: Establish your own name and identity by changing course. Slay the overbearing father, disparage his legacy, and gain power by shining in your own way.
Law 42
Strike the Shepherd and the Sheep will Scatter
Trouble can often be traced to a single strong individual – the stirrer, the arrogant underling, the poisoned of goodwill. If you allow such people room to operate, others will succumb to their influence. Do not wait for the troubles they cause to multiply, do not try to negotiate with them – they are irredeemable. Neutralize their influence by isolating or banishing them. Strike at the source of the trouble and the sheep will scatter.
Law 43
Work on the Hearts and Minds of Others
Coercion creates a reaction that will eventually work against you. You must seduce others into wanting to move in your direction. A person you have seduced becomes your loyal pawn. And the way to seduce others is to operate on their individual psychologies and weaknesses. Soften up the resistant by working on their emotions, playing on what they hold dear and what they fear. Ignore the hearts and minds of others and they will grow to hate you.
Law 44
Disarm and Infuriate with the Mirror Effect
The mirror reflects reality, but it is also the perfect tool for deception: When you mirror your enemies, doing exactly as they do, they cannot figure out your strategy. The Mirror Effect mocks and humiliates them, making them overreact. By holding up a mirror to their psyches, you seduce them with the illusion that you share their values; by holding up a mirror to their actions, you teach them a lesson. Few can resist the power of Mirror Effect.
Law 45
Preach the Need for Change, but Never Reform too much at Once
Everyone understands the need for change in the abstract, but on the day-to-day level people are creatures of habit. Too much innovation is traumatic, and will lead to revolt. If you are new to a position of power, or an outsider trying to build a power base, make a show of respecting the old way of doing things. If change is necessary, make it feel like a gentle improvement on the past.
Law 46
Never appear too Perfect
Appearing better than others is always dangerous, but most dangerous of all is to appear to have no faults or weaknesses. Envy creates silent enemies. It is smart to occasionally display defects, and admit to harmless vices, in order to deflect envy and appear more human and approachable. Only gods and the dead can seem perfect with impunity.
Law 47
Do not go Past the Mark you Aimed for; In Victory, Learn when to Stop
The moment of victory is often the moment of greatest peril. In the heat of victory, arrogance and overconfidence can push you past the goal you had aimed for, and by going too far, you make more enemies than you defeat. Do not allow success to go to your head. There is no substitute for strategy and careful planning. Set a goal, and when you reach it, stop.
Law 48
Assume Formlessness
By taking a shape, by having a visible plan, you open yourself to attack. Instead of taking a form for your enemy to grasp, keep yourself adaptable and on the move. Accept the fact that nothing is certain and no law is fixed. The best way to protect yourself is to be as fluid and formless as water; never bet on stability or lasting order. Everything changes.
Monday, May 23, 2011
Through The Years with Sam Klenke
This person in the name of Sam Klenke, became an overnight sensation when he posted this video of himself for 35 years, it's like watching the years passed and trying his best to show the world that life can be great even when technology wasn't at it's peak just yet. Take a look at this and you'll be amazed!
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Tuesday, May 17, 2011
Spring is Here, Fellas!
Prepare thy rain boots! I recently bought myself a new pair of Hunter rain boots and so far I am loving it and really happy with it. Not only it is light and sturdy but it's also a good fashion accessory. What can I do, eh? I live in a place where the weather seem so unpredictable. Celebrities had their own fun times with this beautiful rain boots! Well, go ahead and get your own pair and buy a quality boots and light or whatever makes you feel comfortable while having a blast walking in the rain. It has so many different colors to choose from as well. Rainy days need not to be a problem anymore.
Try checking www.zappos.com for more brands and style and price. Customers also share their reviews for the most popular ones.
Try checking www.zappos.com for more brands and style and price. Customers also share their reviews for the most popular ones.
Friday, May 13, 2011
"Bridesmaids Movie Trailer"
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